Saturday, 30 August 2008

Understanding one's thoughts

Today I was looking for "in a rush" song on Youtube. I found one video containing some beautiful quotes about love. The words were really catchy. So I went all the way googling, then pasting those quotes here. For a while... I try to figure out, not every person can express feeling in words... and it turns into a smile when I remember one idiom: actions speak louder than words :). Yeah, understanding one's thoughts might be not that easy.

When words unveil what the universe has been hiding...
When words help decoding expectations...
When words simplify phenomenons...
They leave the rest to imagination.
It is a mystery why we fall in love.
It is a mystery how it happens.
It is a mystery when it comes.
It is a mystery why some love grows.
It is a mystery why some love fails.

You can analyze this mystery and look for reasons and causes but you will never do anymore than take the life out of experience.

Just as life itself is more than the sum of the bones and muscles and electrical impulses in the body, love is more than the sum of the interests and attractions and commonalities that two people share. And just as life itself is a gift that comes and goes in its own time, so too, the coming of love must be taken as an unfathomable gift that cannot be questioned in its ways.

Sometimes, hopefully at least once in your life the gift of love will come to you in full flower and you will take hold of it and celebrate it in all inexpressible beauty. This is a dream we all share. More often it will come and take hold of you, celebrate you for a moment, then move on.

When this happens to young people, they too often try to grasp the love and hold it to them, refusing to see that it is a gift that is freely given and a gift that just as freely moves away. When they fall out of love, or the person they love feels that the spirit of love leaving, they try desperately to reclaim the love that is lost rather than accepting the gift for what it was, then move on.

They want answers when there are no answers. They want to know what is wrong in them that makes the other person no longer love them, or they try to get their lover to change, thinking that if some small things were different, love would bloom again. They blame their circumstances and say that if they go far away and start a new life together, their love will grow. They try anything to give meaning to what has happened but there is no meaning beyond the love itself, and until they accept its own mysterious ways, they live in a sea mystery.

You need to know this about love, and accept it.
You need to treat what it brings you with kindness.
If you find yourself in love with someone who does not love you, be gentle with yourself.
There is nothing wrong with you. Love just didn't choose to rest in the other person's heart.
If you find someone else in love with you and you don't love him, feel honored that love came and called at you, but gently refuse the gift you cannot return. Do not take advantage, do not cause pain. How you deal with love is how you deal with you, and all our hearts feel the same pains and joys, even if our lives and ways are different. If you fall in love with another, and he falls in love with you, and then love chooses to leave, do not try to reclaim it or to assess blame. Let it go. There is a reason and there is a meaning. You will know in time.

Remember that you don't choose love, love chooses you. All you can really do is accept it for all its mystery when it comes into your life. Feel the ways it fills you to overflowing, then reach out and give it away. Give it back to the person who brought it alive in you. Give it to others who deem it poor in spirit. Give it to the world around you in anyway you can.

This is where many lovers go wrong. Having been so love without love, they understand love only as a need. They see their hearts as empty places that will be filled by love, and they begin to look at love as something that flows to them rather than from them.

The first blush of love is filled to overflowing but as their love cools they revert to seeing their love as a need. They cease to be someone who generates love and instead become someone who seeks love. They forget that the secret of love is that it is a gift, and that it can be made to grow only by giving it away.

Remember this, and keep it to your heart. Love has its own seasons and its own reason for coming and going. You cannot bribe it or coerce it, or reason it into staying. You can only embrace it when it arrives and give it away when it comes to you. But if it chooses to leave from your heart or from the heart of your lover, there is nothing you can do and there is nothing you should do. Love has been and always will be a mystery. Be glad that it came to live for a moment in your life.

- Big M -

Love is a temporary madness. It erupts like an earthquake and then subsides. And when it subsides you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have become so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of promises of eternal passion. That is just being in love which any of us can convince ourselves we are. Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident. Your mother and I had it, we had roots that grew towards each other underground, and when all the pretty blossom had fallen from our branches we found that we were one tree and not two.

- Captain Corelli's Mandolin -

The most wonderful of all things in life is the discovery of another human being with whom one's relationship has a growing depth, beauty and joy as the years increase. This inner progressiveness of love between two human beings is a most marvellous thing; it cannot be found by looking for it or by passionately wishing for it. It is a sort of divine accident, and the most wonderful of all things in life.

- Sir Hugh Walpole (1884-1941) -

Love means to commit oneself without guarantee, to give oneself completely in the hope that our love will produce love in the loved person. Love is an act of faith, and whoever is of little faith is also of little love.

- Erich Fromm quotes (1900-1980) -

You come to love not by finding the perfect person, but by seeing an imperfect person perfectly.

- Sam Keen -

Love is the emblem of eternity: it confounds all notion of time: effaces all memory of a beginning, all fear of an end.

- Madame de Stael -

Love is like a friendship caught on fire. In the beginning a flame, very pretty, often hot and fierce, but still only light and flickering. As love grows older, our hearts mature and our love becomes as coals, deep-burning and unquenchable.

- Bruce Lee -

Love is as much of an object as an obsession, everybody wants it, everybody seeks it, but few ever achieve it, those who do will cherish it, be lost in it, and among all, never... never forget it.

- Curtis Judalet -

Love feels no burden, thinks nothing of trouble, attempts what is above its strength, pleads no excuse of impossibility; for it thinks all things lawful for itself, and all things possible.

- Thomas Kempis -

Love feels no burden, regards no labors, strives toward more than it attains, argues not of impossibility, since it believes that it may and can do all things. Therefore it avails for all things, and fulfils and accomplishes much where one not a lover falls and lies helpless.

- Thomas a Kempis (1380-1471) -

Love doesn't just sit there like a stone; it has to be made, like bread, remade all the time, made new.

- Ursula K. LeGuin -

Love is a hidden fire, A pleasant sore, A delicious poison, A delectable pain, An agreeable torment, A sweet and throbbing wound, A gentle death.

- Fernando de Pujas -

Life has taught us that love does not consist in gazing at each other, but in looking outward together in the same direction.

- Antoine de Saint-Exupery (1900-1944) -

Love is a symbol of eternity. It wipes out all sense of time, destroying all memory of a beginning and all fear of an end.

- Madame de Stael -

Love is a sweet tyranny, because the lover endureth his torment willingly.

- Proverb -

Love never reasons, but profusely gives; gives, like a thoughtless prodigal, its all, and trembles then lest it has done too little.

- Hannah More -

Love withers under constraints: its very essence is liberty: it is compatible neither with obedience, jealousy, nor fear: it is there most pure, perfect, and unlimited where its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve.

- Percy Bysshe Shelley, Queen Mab, 1813 -

True love is like a ghost; everyone talks of it, but few have met it face to face.

- La Rochefoucald -

Btw, kebanyakan baca quote tentang love malah jadi pusing, heuheuheu. Oya, gambar di atas diambil dari web. Anyway, to those who prepare their wedding... tetap semangat!!! ... dan tak lupa, omedetto... congratulation for finding your soulmate. Do'akan kami yang masih pada jomblo ini segera menyusul. Hehehehe... nyusul naon deuih... mrgreen. Nu jelas mah... dari info yang bertebaran, tampaknya bakal banyak nama tergrafier di piala, hehehehe. Semoga barokah. Amin.

There is enough room to take time
To rethink everything
To really interpret each feeling
To find the true path
To understand the real you
To find the real us
Although somehow...
While the universe becomes a bit colder...
And somewhat quieter...
I find myself hoping,
Wishing the time moving a lot more quickly
Ki o tsukete kudasai !

Tuesday, 26 August 2008


“ Sesungguhnya di dalam tubuh itu ada segumpal darah.
Jika ia baik, maka seluruh tubuh akan baik pula,
dan jika ia rusak, rusak pula seluruh tubuh.
Ketahuilah, segumpal darah itu adalah hati. “
(Diriwayatkan Al-Bukhary, Muslim, dan lain-lain)

Ramadhan sebentar lagi tiba, tinggal menghitung hari
Orang-orang mulai hiruk pikuk menyambut bulan penuh rahmat
Mempersiapkan fisik, materi
Menyusun target, mengukir harapan

Kalau mau berteori panjang lebar, beridealis ke sana ke mari
Banyak sekali targetan yang ingin dicapai
Hanya saja...
Ghirah itu... tak kunjung terkumpul
Bukan semangat yang membumbung
Melainkan kehampaan yang tak beralasan

Menyambut Ramadhan... menghitung mundur...
Keinginan memakmurkan bulan suci ini begitu besar
Namun tak ada percikan semangat yang menyala
Datar saja

"Jangan sampai melewatkan Ramadhan...
Rugi serugi-ruginya, jika Ramadhan dilewatkan begitu saja"
Jika sekarang pun ada air mata terjatuh
Mungkin itu adalah air mata kesedihan
Meratapi irama hidup yang monoton
Bahagia, namun datar

Ya Allah...
Hidupkanlah hati ini
Hidupkanlah jiwa ini
Izinkanlah hambaMu ini...
memasuki Ramadhan-Mu...
dengan hati yang bersih
dengan jiwa yang tenang
Berikanlah kekuatan
untuk meng-azzamkan diri
mencari keridhaan-Mu


Tuesday, 5 August 2008

Kreativ blogger award

Pertama, jangan tanya Rachma kenapa yang muncul adalah kreativ [yang jelas-jelas kagak ada di KBBI mrgreen]. Mungkin saking kreatifnya, jadilah ganti pake v [kalo pake English males nambah e kali yak]... atau jangan-jangan, pas lagi pake photoshop, yang bikin gambarnya salah mencet huruf, heuheuheu....

Sebelum nyebutin nominees nya, Rachma mu bahas dulu apa itu blog [berdasarkan Oxford English dictionary Online]:

Blog as a noun, derived from the word weblog [log of web], but then popular in terms of we blog [blog as verb].

Brit. /

bl{rfa}g/, U.S. /bl{fata}g/ Forms: 19- blog, 'blog.

= *WEBLOG n. 2.


1999 (weblog diary) 23 May, Cam points out and PeterMe decides the proper way to say ‘weblog’ is ‘wee'- blog’ (Tee-hee!).] 1999 P. MERHOLZ in (weblog diary) 28 May, For those keeping score on blog commentary from outside the blog community. 1999 Scotsman (Nexis) 30 Aug., Many of the early 'blogs link to one another and have built quite a community of webloggers{em}the authors who maintain them. 2002 Salina Jrnl. 21 Apr. B6/3 Blogs..contain daily musings about news, dating, marriage, divorce, children, politics in the Middle East..or millions of other things or nothing at all.
weblog as noun:

Brit. /

{sm}w{ope}bl{rfa}g/, U.S. /{sm}w{ope}b{smm}l{revc}g/, /{sm}w{ope}b{smm}l{fata}g/ [< WEB n. + LOG n.1 Cf. later BLOG n.]

1. A file storing a detailed record of requests handled (and sometimes also errors generated) by a web server.


1993 comp.infosystems.www (Usenet newsgroup) 4 Nov. (title of posting) Announcing getsites 1.5, a Web log analyzer. 1995 Computer Technol. Rev. July 10/2 The Key creates a log{em}the WebLog{em}listing everyone who has accessed software from a particular Web site. 1998 Boston Globe (Electronic ed.) 19 Oct., The server Web logs..indicated..which computers were hitting his site, the number of visitors, and the time they retrieved his page. 2002 Network Computing 21 Jan. 60/3 We were interested in seeing the most viewed products... Was chicken-wing sauce viewed more often than steak sauce..? We got a good, diverse group of actual Web log data.

2. A frequently updated web site consisting of personal observations, excerpts from other sources, etc., typically run by a single person, and usually with hyperlinks to other sites; an online journal or diary.


1997 J. BARGER Lively New Webpage in alt.culture.www (Usenet newsgroup) 23 Dec., I decided to start my own webpage logging the best stuff I find as I surf, on a daily This will cover any and everything that interests me, from net culture to politics to literature etc. 1998 Village Voice (N.Y.) 8 Sept. 33/3 Jorn Barger's Robot Wisdom WebLog..might not be pretty, but it's one of the best collections of news and musings culled from the Web{em}and updated daily. 2000 Independent 23 Oct. II. 9/1 A weblog is simply a site where you post your thoughts whenever the muse strikes. 2002 Times (Electronic ed.) 14 Jan., There is a way to be stupendously well informed... Scour the highlights in..weblogs

Kadang, ada juga yang menerjemahkan blog sebagai better listing on Google, singkatan tepat bagi yang senang nongkrongin dan mantau rank blognya di Alexa dan atau Technorati. Kalo buat Rachma sendiri... blog itu online journal, my online diary, so... practically I don't care about page rank and stuffs. Walo kadang... ada aja sih yang protes ini itu, hayah... siapa kamu protes-protes blog Rachma, heran deh, kalo jealous ya tanggung sendiri lah, kalo gak suka ya jangan baca, simpel toh? Ini kan blog Rachma, terserah Rachma dong mau nulis apa [mode galak ON razz]. Beberapa minggu ini, kadang... kepikiran sih, buat berhenti ngeblog, hiatus, ato mungkin diprivate ajeh blognya. Hmm... hmm... tapi sayah sekilas kepikiran... kalo berhenti ngeblog, yakin situ gak kangen? Yakin situ gak penasaran tentang serunya my life story? Hihihih twisted.

Biasanya kalo ngeblog, Rachma tidak nyebut nama, kadang pake singkatan, kadang betul-betul anonim, alasannya... ngg... mungkin hanya masalah etis dan tidak etis... ato mungkin karena kebiasaan Rachma aja kalo cerita pun seringnya anonim [kecuali sama orang terdekat]. Tapi berhubung ini mah namanya juga award, jadi ya sekalian sajah Rachma perkenalkan nomineesnya smile.

-[[Latar Belakang]]-

Dapet personal message tanggal 1 Agustus 2008, dari Mbak Henny via Multiply, jadi ada kewajiban moral harus diteruskan [hehehe, padahal gak diterusin juga kagak ape-ape mrgreen].


Cenah, peraturannya teh kayak gini:
  1. The winner may put the logo on her/his blog.
  2. Put a link to the person you got the award from.
  3. Nominate 5 blogs.
  4. Put links to the blogs.
  5. Leave a message for your nominees award.
Asli Rachma mikir-mikir, sapa yak yang pantas dijadiin korban mrgreen. Awalnya sih Rachma liat list google reader, ngeliat statistik dari blog-blog itu, mempertimbangkan isinya. Mikir-mikir... mikir dan mikir.... hehehe


Sebelum ditimpuk sama para nominees di bawah ini, Rachma minta maaf karena mencantumkan linknya di sini, bisi ada kata-kata yang kurang berkenan, de es be de el el, da ini mah asli pemikiran subjektifkuwh smile. Urutan juga tidak mencerminkan prioritas ato apa gitu, Rachma nyoba ngurutin berdasarkan waktu pertama kali mengenal blog bersangkutan, itu pun lupa-lupa ingat, heheh. Jadinya Rachma liat di arsip message gmail, dulu-duluan yang mana mrgreen.

Due to all respects, the nominees are:

~[[ Teh Nisa ]]~

Muncul di arsip gmail pertama kali tanggal 19 April 2007. Sekitar bulan ini juga Rachma ngaktifin blogger [setelah pindah dari blog friendster yang templatenya itu-itu sajah confused], sekaligus mengekspor postingan blogger ke multiply [bikin akun multiply karena Forum Jomblo Ceria, sayang kalo kagak ada isinya sama sekali smile]. Bisa dibilang multiply mah alat komunikasi dan bahan update-an seGroningen raya [halah, heuheuheuh, di samping ym tentunya wink].

Kalo baca blognya Teh Nisa mah bikin laper, heuheuheu. Udah gitu teh kalo liat foto-fotonya... Teh Nisaaa... dilarang menampilkan kemesraan di depan umuuum, nambah virus kronis eta teh, hihihih.

~[[ Trian ]]~

Ada di arsip gmail tanggal 11 Juni 2007. Ntah pertama kali baca blog Trian teh kapan. Nu jelas mah kalo baca blognya Trian mesti mikir, heuheu, abisnya serius [yah, gak semua juga sih]. Tapi blog mah emang mencerminkan orangnya ketang, Trian dicap sebagai orang serius sama Rachma [heheh, piiss Trian ... piiiiisssss mrgreen]. Visit Europe sometimes Trian, mu menjelajah rute Laskar Pelangi bukan? razz

~[[ Ganda ]]~

Di arsip gmail tanggal 21 Desember 2007. Kesan setelah baca blognya adalah Ganda itu...melow, tapi kalo dah nyangkut kerja tegas banget [ato galak ya, hihih piiss Gan mrgreen], tapi kerasa banget... he masks something [dan barulah ngeh kenapa nama blognya man in the mask dan gambarnya adalah spiderman]. It's good to know better about yourself, so why don't you reveal the mask then? Ato nunggu ada someone yang ngebukain yaah? hayoh ngaku!!! Heheheh.

Ah, satu lagi yang lucu... Ganda, yang jelas-jelas lebih senior, gak mau dipanggil KK... dengan alasan... naon nya alesan na teh ... rolleyes ...ngg... ngerasa tua sigana mun dipanggil KK, heuheuh. Beliau ini teh mu milad akhir Agustus ini, jadi shohih kan lebih tuanya, heuheuh, jadi sodara-sodara... panggil saja beliau dengan sebutan KK [hihih, ngebayangin Ganda marah-marah karena dipanggil KK kaya sales yang di Bali ituh, heuheh...]. Gomen Ganda San, sumimasen deshita.

~[[ Agung ]]~

Di gmail kearsip tanggal 6 Februari 2008. Kalo baca blognya Agung... kaya baca koran, bahasannya serius, tapi nyantai aja gitu bacanya biggrin. Yang Rachma curigai dari Agung adalah koleksi bukunya pasti banyak banget [abis gencar banget promosinya, heuheuh]. Tapi bagus ketang, membudayakan membaca.

~[[ Mbak Inne ]]~

Sebenernya mah ada dua multiply punya Mbak Inne, tapi Rachma cantumin satu aja mrgreen. Di arsip gmail sebenernya ada tanggal 17 April 2007, bagian update friend of friend nya Multiply, hehe, tapi invitasi friend listnya tanggal 7 Mei 2008. Yang menarik di multiplynya Mbak Inne adalah tentu sajah foto-fotonyaaaaa. Heran pokoknya, gambar biasa ge ngadak-ngadak jadi bagus, heuheuheu. Karena liat foto-foto itu juga, jadi semakin bertekad untuk punya Nikon, minimal yang D80, ato yang D100, walo sebenernya ngarep Nikon D700.

Yak, akhirnya selse jugaaaaa. Tinggal ngirim message kali yak. Hmm... hmm... boleh gak ya kalo gak ngirim message, jadi berhenti ajah gitu pesen berantainyah biggrin. Soalnya... ngg... jadi beneran kelintas berhenti ngeblog, hahahahah.

Hmm... hmm....

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