Monday, 22 February 2010

The wonderful you

I don't know exactly what you think about yourself, or what people say about you, but I do believe that you are a wonderful person. You, with all the great things you did, with all the silly things you've ever done, with all the mistakes you've ever made, with all that complicated things you created, must have a lot of amazing things going on in your life. I can understand that sometimes people say some things hurtful about you. They judge you, they blame you, they deliberately say there is something wrong about you, and they plainly label you this or that. They unconsciously drag you into a lot of doubts about your existence, lead you to questioning your own confidence. While it's natural to feel sad about those kind of things, you might want to keep in mind that you are always wonderful, no matter what people say. Even if you are on the lowest state of self assurance, please have time to believe that there are people out there who love you the way you are. If you feel everyone seems to disagree that you have a lot of extraordinary things going on in your life, then at least consider me as the person who will acknowledge how special you are.


Isn't it great to have someone appreciate all the little things you do? Isn't it sweet to have someone recognize how wonderful you are? Isn't it nice to have someone accept you the way you are? Well... while it is good to know that I am one of those people who will agree that you are a great person, it actually will be even better if first thing first you are the one who acknowledges your own capability. Don't you think so?


When you look yourself in the mirror, what kind of face do you see? Is that the real you? Or is it the person people tell you to be? Or the person you think you are supposed to be? And the most important thing to ask is... are you happy with that person you see in the mirror? Is that really the person you are comfortable to be? If you are happy, then I want to congratulate you, but if you're not, then I would like to have a little chit chat with you. If you don't mind of course.


Well... I want you to sit there... and relax. I don't know what kind of environment helping you more relax, but let's imagine you are sitting in the front yard, near the beach, with the sound of waves breezing tenderly. You can feel the wind softly touch your skin. You can hear the birds singing cheerfully. You can feel the sun shines decorating the view. You can see the sky enchanting its blue color. You are breathing regularly, as you used to be. It's just that now you are more relax, you are now smiling, you are... more free. As now I am an outsider of that soothing atmosphere you have there, I think I can start to conclude something... you look amazing when you are relax. Oh well... actually it seems to me you look a bit vulnerable there, but still sweet. And your smile looks gentle, giving me those nice goosebumps. Hmm... should I say that it is such an honor for me to see those wonderful sides of you?


Let's go back to the last case, about the person you see in the mirror. I think everyone has their own case about this thing. And you don't need to explain about it in details, you can keep it secret if that is more convenient for you. But I want you to know for sure, that for whatever reasons, you definitely have rights to be the real you. And if being selfish is one of those funny things revolved in this world, then the selfish me, like everybody else, also deserve to know you as the real you. So the question is, how far are you willing to show us the real you?


As far as I understand, there are times in which you are afraid to show your true self. You are afraid of being hurt, rejected, unappreciated, abandoned. Sometimes the world is plain unfair, and end up igniting you to shut yourself. But how long do you think you can live in such darkness? How long are you willing to let yourself imprisoned in such thoughts? And if you think that nobody is able to understand your circumstances, then how about trying to talk it with me? I might not be able to guarantee that I will understand you completely, but I will not bite you for being who you are.


You see, a little laughter is worth a while. The more I know you, the more I can see how amazing you are. But let's face the reality, being amazing itself is not enough. You also need to know how to show people that amazing side of you. 'Cause well... pardon us for the clueless situation, but sometimes we simply can't get the hints you drop. And frankly saying, it's a bit unfair if you demand us to understand you, but you yourself don't drop clear clues. Don't you think so?


Do you want to know a little secret I keep about you? Well,,, it's like what I find in everybody else, I find you as the most attractive person when you are being honest. You shared some childish stories, you talked some unimportant matters, you threw some silly jokes, you enthusiastically talked about your hobbies, you out of nowhere shared some to-do-lists, and with no reasons dropped a long story about your dreams. While I sometimes couldn't understand the sudden acts you did, I actually enjoyed the way you presented those things. It was natural, it was familiar, it was simply interesting. That very moment I understand, despite the belief you hold about yourself, I know that your life is colorful, and you deserve that. So, would you mind sharing with us those wonderful moments you have in your life?


You... how is life? How is the progress of you struggling so hard to please people? Well... while it's good to be nice to other people, have you considered yourself as a nice person to yourself? Are you happy with what you are doing now? Do you have some dreams in mind in which you want to make them real? Have you tried your best to reach those hopes and visions? Hmm... I know you are a nice person, well... too nice actually to the point you sometimes have no time for yourself. Then I suggest... you might want to consider the idea to allocate more time for yourself, to improve your own life. Because... let's get real... you are human, in spite the fact you so unbelievably have a lot of time and energy to think and care about the others. You need to recharge yourself, you need to take care of the healthy state of your own body, your own psychology. You need to expand the growth of your knowledge, or maybe the range of your social life. I understand that you want to maintain that low profile of yours, but well... sometimes I am afraid,,, if you keep your profile all the time low, then when will you have yourself reach higher profile state?


You... how clear are you willing to actually show people the wonderful you? If you so doubt that people won't accept you the way you are,,, then how about showing it little by little? Well, I imagine that there might be a little shock here and there to see that sudden change of yours,,, but please bear in mind that while at certain points I or someone else gives you some not-so-nice comments, I believe that people are actually willing to accept the real you. Just please give us some time to fully understand that high uniqueness you have.


Keep shining, keep smiling. The world is not complete without you.





* Disclaimer: This post is an
imaginary illustration, compiled from some random yet true stories. If you find high similarity to certain case, then the chance is ,,, your story is indeed part of the inspiration of this narration. I carefully modify it, but in case you mind, pardon me for writing down some of your story.

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I assume you take full responsibility of anything you read, including this post. While you might not seriously take into account the influence of a writing, then I want to remind you that anything you read will influence your thought more or less, so please keep in mind that you are responsible for filtering any philosophy I insert in my writing.



I am so sleepyyyyyyy ....

2 comments:

iqbal.arsyad said...

hasil lamunan yang kelamaan...

Rachmawati said...

:))

jadi ini idenya sharing lamunan ;p

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